Between-session companionship in therapy: why it matters
Phobia therapy works one hour a week, but life is the other 167. Good between-session companionship multiplies progress.
"I have vertigo" is one of the most ambiguous sentences in conversation about fear. Sometimes it means real vestibular vertigo (a medical condition). Sometimes it means acrophobia (a phobia of heights). The treatment is different, and confusing them delays recovery.
Acrophobia is a specific phobia. The person feels intense anxiety in high places: balconies, viewpoints, cliffs, tall bridges, ladders, glass floors. Sometimes the body really wobbles, but the dizziness is secondary to the fear: it is hyperventilation, tachycardia, hypervigilance.
Triggers:
Typical thoughts: "I might jump", "the floor will give way", "I'll lose control and fall". The thought "I might jump" — known as the high place phenomenon — does not mean genuine suicidal ideation: it is a relatively common cognitive intrusion that even non-phobic people have.
Vestibular vertigo is real and objective dizziness coming from the inner ear. The person feels:
Common causes: benign paroxysmal positional vertigo (BPPV), Meniere's disease, vestibular neuritis, migraine with vestibular aura, side effects of certain medications.
It has nothing to do with height. It is a medical issue that requires an ENT or a neurologist, not a psychologist.
| Question | Acrophobia | Vestibular vertigo |
|---|---|---|
| Does it happen lying in bed? | No | Yes |
| Does it happen turning your head fast? | No | Yes |
| Does it appear on a balcony or viewpoint? | Yes | Sometimes (worsens) |
| Real sensation of the room spinning? | No | Yes |
| Associated nausea/vomiting? | Sometimes | Usual |
| Tinnitus or hearing changes? | No | Sometimes |
| Anticipatory anxiety? | Yes | No |
| Fear of high places specifically? | Yes | No |
If most ticks are in column 1: acrophobia. If most are in column 2: vestibular vertigo. If you have both, you may have both — they are not exclusive.
Acrophobia: graded exposure. Exposure ladder from photos of high places to actual viewpoints, balconies, etc. SUDS, regulation, retiring safety behaviours (gripping the railing with white knuckles, never approaching the edge). 8-15 sessions of CBT usually resolve it.
Vestibular vertigo: differential diagnosis with ENT, specific medication if needed, vestibular rehabilitation exercises (e.g. Epley manoeuvres for BPPV). Many vertigos remit completely with the right rehabilitation in 4-8 weeks.
Several reasons:
A standard ladder:
Always with retiring of safety behaviours: not always going in the company of a specific person, not gripping the railing as the only way of tolerating it.
See an ENT or neurologist if:
See a clinical psychologist if:
Naming what is happening matters. "I'm scared of heights" and "I get dizzy" are very different things in clinic. Telling them apart well takes you to the right professional and saves you months of treatment in the wrong direction.
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Phobia therapy works one hour a week, but life is the other 167. Good between-session companionship multiplies progress.
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